‘Urolagnia’ was voted Britain’s 9th biggest sexual fetish
Urolagnia, otherwise known as water sports, is actually one of Britain’s biggest sexual fetishes. What are water sports you may wonder… aren’t they games you play in a pool? A pool of someone’s piss, yes. Water sports is the sexual engagement with urine, be that with your own or a partner’s. Like most fetishes, there are far more people who are interested in this sort of play than are willing to disclose it. The forbidden aspect of this fetish increases the excitement for all participants. Water sports go way beyond a golden shower. Bringing a whole new definition to a ‘wet dream’…Urolagnia, a.k.a. water sports or piss play, still remains an extremely taboo paraphilia in today’s society
What Are Water Sports?
Urban Dictionary defines water sports as, “Sexual activity in which urine is involved. The presence of urine is generally considered erotic for those indulging in the urine related activities.”
Water sports can mean peeing on your partner, in front of your partner, near your partner, in your partner, or having your partner pee on/near/in front/ inside of you. No hard and fast rules here, except that it definitely involves pee.
Water Sports are Much More Than a Golden Shower. Why Are People Into Water Sports?
Speaking to Cosmopolitan, Samantha Manewitz, a sex therapist who specialises in working with alt-sex and kink communities, states that, “There’s often a component of dominance and submission in the act of peeing on a partner, or having a partner pee on you. But for others, golden showers are just a fetish that gets them aroused and they don’t have any interest in the power exchange aspect of urinating in front of a partner.”
She goes on to further state other wants and desires for the need of urine in sex play and in her practice, she’s found that people are into piss play for a variety of reasons. “Water sports can foster trust and intimacy, there is vulnerability both in having a partner pee in your presence and allowing yourself to be peed on,” she continues, “There is also something about exchanging bodily fluids in general that can be hot for some. The fact that it is ‘wrong’ and ‘dirty’ can be a turn on in, and of itself.“
In an article for Esquire, the writer states, “On a very basic level I like watching men hold their dicks in their hands. I also like the sheer quantity that you can get with urine – a physical impossibility with semen, unless you have some as-yet-undiscovered diet that means you can ejaculate with the volume of a post-pub-crawl toilet stop. And finally, it’s the expression on a guy’s face when he – the clue is in the name – ‘relieves himself.’ There are echoes of the satisfaction of a really good orgasm.”
Some people like to pee in public or semi-public, combining exhibitionism with peeing. ‘Pussing’ is a British term for a fetish that involves watching someone pee in a public or semi-public place.
Meanwhile, ‘Omorashi’ is a Japanese term to describe a fetish for having a bladder so full that you need to pee urgently, and getting sexually aroused by either feeling this sensation yourself, or getting sexually aroused by watching, and forcing someone to be in this position. Then there are the people who love to wet their panties ‘accidentally’ or to observe ‘accidents’.
Havelock Ellis was an English doctor who studied human sexuality in the early 20th century. He was one of the first to talk about this fetish and also to admit that he had this fetish. He thought the fetish had emerged from various incidents in his childhood and adolescence where he witnessed his mother urinating. Lots of people with urolagnia can trace their desire back to a time where they became aroused and urine was present.
There are more reasons – very rarely can you look at an individual kink and say “this is exactly why people like it” – different people will pick up on different details that turn them on. But when reading about water sports, lots of people mention enjoying the humiliation aspect. Others enjoy the smell or the taste, or the warm wetness. Contrary to popular myths, it isn’t particularly an unhygienic or dangerous thing either.
For many, it’s the sheer taboo of it that gets them off. Piss play is sexy for the same reason that BDSM is sexy: it’s considered naughty, dirty, even morally wrong, and for some that can be a major turn on.
The Facts & Stats
Last year during a nationwide study for Channel 4’s ‘Great British Sex Survey‘, urolagnia came in at number 9 in the UK’s top sexual fetishes. Stats on kinks – especially taboo kinks – are notoriously hard to gather, because there are many things lots of us enjoy that we’re unwilling to admit. Even still, the survey estimated that at least one million British people are into water sports – a figure that is still pretty high regardless.
In 2014, researchers at the University of Montreal set out to discover just how common certain sexual fantasies were in men and women. Around 3.5% of women reported fantasies about urinating on (or being urinated on) by a partner, and (like usual) the figures for men were higher: 8.9% wanted to wee on someone, 10% wanted to be weed on. When regarding sexual fantasies, male stats are often higher than a woman’s purely because of the taboo that forbids women talking about sex in general – so no doubt, the percentage is higher than 3.5% in reality.
There’s still plenty of water sports porn out there – a PornHub search for ‘piss’ turns up over 10,000 videos – but in general censors frown on anything that involves urine. Esquire states that, in fact, “The British Board of Film Classification in the UK won’t even allow female ejaculation in porn, because it is convinced that female ejaculate and ‘urine’ are one and the same thing. The proposed Digital Economy Bill, which is currently on-track to become UK law, would block websites which include acts like urination and female ejaculation.” They go on to bring to light, “Which does raise the rather interesting question: if a video did emerge of a public figure indulging in water sports with some sex workers, would anyone actually be allowed to publish it?”
How to Practice it Safely
Consent – consent is the most important part of any sexual engagement. Both parties need to fully consent to whatever act you’re going to do and both parties need to know they can stop the act at any point (for whatever reason). Opening up the conversation with, “Are you interested in experimenting with water sports?” is probably a best had before the foreplay kicks off, not in the heat of the moment.
Make a plan and stick to the plan – and then be sure you’re taking general cleanliness into account. Is this something you want to try out in the shower? In a bed? On the floor? Where is the urine going? Are you avoiding the face? Are you urinating in their mouth? Sticking to the set plan ensures all the conditions of consent are being met, and no one is surprised in a way they are utterly unprepared for.
Uberkinky states, “For those interested in golden showers and drinking urine, one has to wonder if it’s even safe. Remember, what goes in must come out, so any medication or supplement will be excreted in the urine. To reduce the risk of transmitting bacteria, it is good practice to start mid-stream rather than at the very beginning. This allows the urethra to be flushed out of any lingering bacteria in the event of a urinary tract infection.”
It’s handy knowledge not only in case you hook up with a fetishist, but also if you happen to get stranded in the desert. If drinking urine is good enough for Bear Grylls, and as long as they follow the general safety advice, it’s good enough for kinky people too.
Can I Get Any Infections Practicing Water Sports?
A healthy person’s urine is 95 percent water and is sterile, so drinking it in small amounts is not a problem. However, if the person has an infection, then this is not a great idea. Many people who practice water sports drink lots of water so the urine is dilute.
According to Indiana Public Media, “Urine is still safe to drink in the short term. Normally, urine is about 95 percent water and only five percent waste minerals such as excess potassium and calcium. So at least at first, drinking urine isn’t that different from drinking water.”
And for those worried if you can catch an STI through golden showers or drinking someone’s urine, BeSafeMeds states, “While we can test for gonorrhea and chlamydia by testing urine samples, there is no transmission of STDs through urine. So, while golden showers may sound gross and are not for everyone, the chance of getting an STD from a shower of urine is next to zero.”